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Giving Feedback: Check-In

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Check-In card states, “Don’t stop at the giving. Thoughtfully following up can deepen the relationship and give your feedback a better chance of sticking.” And the card invites you to use the closer: “I’m curious, was the feedback I gave last week helpful?” If they’ve adopted it: “How has practicing … Read more

Giving Feedback: Positive

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Positive card states, “Positive feedback can improve morale, show people you recognize their full range of abilities, and help them uncover strengths they didn’t know they had.” And the card invites you to practice the ratio. Aim to give more positive feedback than negative feedback. Make it just as specific … Read more

Giving Feedback: Limit

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Limit card states, “Sharing a long list of improvements may result in the receiver’s morale dropping, none sticking, or both. Choose focused precision over volume.” And the card invites you to practice the edit. Review your list, then think, which insight would have the most impact on their growth? Share … Read more

Giving Feedback: Pause

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Pause card states, “After giving feedback, invite the receiver’s perspective and create space for a response. Filling the silence can dilute the message and disrupt their ability to process.” And the card invites you to take the challenge. Deliver your core feedback message in three sentences or fewer. Ask, “What … Read more

Giving Feedback: Tone

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Tone card states, “Tone can carry more weight than words. If your tone can be perceived as frustrated or condescending, it could obscure insights in your feedback.” And the card invites you to run the check. Before the conversation, check in with yourself. If you’re feeling exhausted or bothered, those … Read more

Giving Feedback: Impact

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Impact card states, “Clearly connect the dots between the receiver’s action and the consequence you observed it having or the consequence it could have had.” And the card invites you to use the equation: “When you observed action, from my perspective, it led to observed result, and I felt emotion … Read more

Giving Feedback: Behavior

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Behavior card states, “Distinguish between what you observed, the behavior, and what you think it meant. Leading with your observation can make it easier for the receiver to engage.” And the card invites you to practice the shift. Instead of, “You were disengaged,” try, “I noticed you were on your … Read more

Giving Feedback: Context

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Context card states, “Situate feedback in a specific time, place, and behavior so the receiver can locate themselves in it. The longer you wait, the harder that becomes.” And the card invites you to use the anchor, which you can do by starting with the when and where to paint … Read more

Giving Feedback: Intent

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Intent card states, “State your positive intent. If the receiver assumes you don’t have their best interest in mind, even great feedback may not land well.” And the card invites you to use what’s called the preface, something like, “I’m sharing this because I believe in what you’re doing, and … Read more

Giving Feedback: Permission

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Permission card states, “Unsolicited feedback can cause defensiveness. In a private setting, ask for permission to share it first. This can create a safer environment.” And the card invites you to use what’s called the opener, which you can do by saying something like, “I have some observations that might … Read more

Giving Feedback: Intro Card

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback tab card states, “Using feedback builds your skills. Giving it well helps others build theirs. It draws on all other feedback skills.” And the suit’s guide is the eagle. They patiently observe from a distance and act with accuracy. Giving great feedback requires that same careful discipline. So let’s start … Read more

Using Feedback: Outcome

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Outcome card states, “Adopting challenging feedback may make you worse before you get better, but the end result of implementing it must be improvement.” And the card invites you to run the progress check, which you can do by asking yourself and those you trust, “Since making this change, has … Read more

Using Feedback: Track

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Track card states, “If you don’t monitor the impact of your changes, you won’t know if they’re working. Strive to wring insights from every attempt at change.” And the card invites you to keep the log, which you can do for one week. Each time you use the feedback, rate … Read more

Using Feedback: Momentum

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Momentum card states, “Waiting until you feel ready to try a new behavior based on difficult feedback may lead to avoiding it. Taking action could bring the readiness you want.” And the card invites you to take the next rep, because the perfect moment may not exist. Identify an opportunity … Read more

Using Feedback: Commit

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Commit card states, “Once you adopt feedback, hold yourself accountable. People who use feedback to grow make commitments to themselves and others.” And the card invites you to sign the contract, which you can do by filling in the blanks: “In the next timeframe, I commit to practicing behavior change … Read more

Using Feedback: Tailor

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Tailor card states, “Feedback is data meant to be applied to a specific context. A hammer is useful for nails, not windows. Apply the insight where it belongs, not everywhere.” And the card invites you to run the context check, which you can do by asking yourself, “In which specific … Read more

Using Feedback: Adjust

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Adjust card states, “First attempts are rarely perfect. In our attempts to change, it’s easy to over-correct or under-correct. Seek input on how you implemented the feedback.” And the card invites you to practice the dartboard, which you can do by trying the new behavior, then asking, “I tried to … Read more

Using Feedback: Loop

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Loop card states, “The feedback process is complete not when you’ve made a positive change once or twice, but when that change has become your new norm.” And the card invites you to set the checkpoint, a reminder for 30 days out. When it arrives, ask yourself, “Is this behavior … Read more

Using Feedback: Micro

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Micro card states, “Acting on adopted feedback may be harder than you thought. If you get stuck, try breaking it into smaller pieces and working on one at a time.” And the card invites you to practice the atom, which you can do by asking yourself, “If this feedback were … Read more

Using Feedback: Signal

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Signal card states, “Changing your behavior may go unnoticed. If you want particular people to be aware of your efforts to change, ask them directly.” And the card invites you to use what’s called the flag, which you can do by asking the feedback giver something like, “I’m working on … Read more

Using Feedback: Experiment

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Experiment card states, “You may have spent years building the behavior that feedback is asking you to change. Treat each attempt at change as a form of practice.” And the card invites you to try what’s called the low-stakes pilot, which you can do by trying the new behavior in … Read more

Using Feedback: Intro Card

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback tab card states, “Processing feedback prepares you to use it, a skill built on turning insight into action through steady, adaptive practice.” And the suit’s guide is the otter. They are resourceful and willing to adapt to solve a problem. Using feedback relies on that same strategic persistence. So here’s … Read more

Processing Feedback: Decide

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Decide card states, “Processing feedback should end with a clear decision, a deep understanding of why that decision was made, and a readiness to move forward.” And the card invites you to deliver the verdict, which you can do for meaningful feedback you’ve chosen to adopt by completing this: “I … Read more

Processing Feedback: Select

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Select card states, “When feedback has many parts, trying to act on all of them at once makes it harder to improve at any of them. Prioritize the piece that matters most.” And the card invites you to ask the one thing: “If I could only take one element from … Read more

Processing Feedback: Discard

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Discard card states, “You have permission to reject feedback. If you have analyzed it and found it inaccurate or unhelpful, adopting it can sabotage your growth.” And the card invites you to practice the clearing, which you can do by consciously deciding, “I have understood this, considered it, and chosen … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Calibrate

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Calibrate card states, “We may miss out on vital perspectives if we process feedback alone. Seeking additional opinions tests the feedback against a larger reality.” And the card invites you to run the reality check, which you can do by asking a person you trust, “Based on your experience with … Read more

Processing Feedback: Emotion

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Emotion card states, “Defensiveness can be a map pointing to something you want to protect. Rather than suppress the feeling, try exploring it to find the roots and values underneath.” And the card invites you to practice the label, which you can do by naming the feeling and completing this … Read more

Processing Feedback: Patterns

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Patterns card states, “A single data point is a snapshot. Several can point to an important pattern. Search for a recurring theme before changing your behavior.” And the card invites you to apply the scientific method, which you can do by placing feedback in context. Does it fit a pattern, … Read more

Processing Feedback: Filter

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Filter card states, “You are the curator of your own growth. Not every piece of data belongs in your museum. Separating what matters from what doesn’t is a skill.” And the card invites you to practice the three bins, which you can do by sorting feedback into mental bins: adopt … Read more

Processing Feedback: Source

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Source card states, “Feedback can be a mirror, and mirrors can be distorted. Clarity depends on the giver’s expertise and on how critically you evaluate what you’ve received.” And the card invites you to run the credibility check, which you can do by asking three questions: Does the person have … Read more

Processing Feedback: Sleep

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Sleep card states, “Whether pressure to respond comes from yourself or others, it can make feedback harder to process. A night of sleep may give you new ways to think about it.” And the card invites you to practice the twenty-four-hour rule, which you can do by making a rule … Read more

Processing Feedback: Immerse

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Immerse card states, “Difficult feedback may cause your palms to sweat, your chest to tighten, or your stomach to drop. Those reactions hold information you can learn from.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the dive, which you can do by bringing the feedback to mind, noticing … Read more

Processing Feedback: Intro Card

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback tab card states, “Receiving feedback leads to processing feedback, a skill that involves slowing down and reflecting before acting.” And the suit’s guide is the sloth. They are intentional, so they’re confident when they move. Processing feedback calls for that same deliberate pace. So let me tell you why this … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Accept

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Accept card states, “Acceptance is not agreement. It means you have understood and acknowledged that this is their perspective. It creates space so you can begin reflecting.” And the card invites you to make the choice. If you agree, act. If you disagree, consider a second opinion and then follow … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Aspire

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Aspire card states, “Receiving feedback means you now have new raw material to sculpt your growth. Adopting it may be obvious and easy, but that is not always the case.” And the card invites you to use the compass, which you can do before adopting complex feedback by asking, “Might … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Clarify

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Clarify card states, “Ensure you understand the feedback before you agree or disagree with it. If something feels unclear, paraphrase it back and check.” And the card invites you to practice the replay, which you can do if the feedback is vague by asking, “Can you give me a specific … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Gaps

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Gaps card states, “We often view ourselves through the lens of what we intended. Others experience us by the impact of our actions, and that’s what they give feedback on.” And the card invites you to practice the acknowledgement, which you can do by leading with what they experienced, not … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Value

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Value card states, “Try to find useful feedback even if it’s packaged poorly by the giver. But if it’s delivered abusively, that isn’t feedback, do not tolerate it.” And the card invites you to practice safety and excavation, which you can do by filtering for safety first. If the delivery … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Curiosity

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Curiosity card states, “Defensiveness is understandable sometimes. At other times, curiosity is a wiser response. Use it to learn more about their perspective.” And the card invites you to practice the pivot, which you can do if defensiveness is in the room but not needed by saying, “Can you share … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Assume

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Assume card states, “Assuming the giver wants to help can prepare you to listen. If you assume a threat is coming, you may default to defensiveness, which can make learning difficult.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called adjust the dials, which you can do by dialing down … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Separate

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Separate card states, “Decouple your identity from your performance. When the two fuse, feedback can feel like a threat to who we are. You are more than your current performance.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the object, which you can do by imagining your performance as … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Fallback

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Fallback card states, “You do not need to immediately agree or disagree when you get challenging feedback. You only need to acknowledge receiving it.” And the card invites you to memorize what’s called the feedback fallback phrase. It’s a neutral phrase for when you feel stunned, something like, “I need … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Instinct

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Instinct card states, “Difficult feedback can activate a stress response that may limit how you take in information. Self-judgment can then amplify this response.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the reset, which you can do by, when receiving feedback, supporting your sense of internal safety by … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Intro Card

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback tab card states, “Seeking leads to receiving, a skill that impacts not only how you learn from feedback but also how others give it.” And the suit’s guide is the tarsier. They are attentive to the key signals around them. Receiving feedback well demands that same focused receptivity. So let’s … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Perspective

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Perspective card states, “There may come a time when feedback from your usual circle begins to feel limiting. When this happens, it may be time to seek perspective from new sources.” And the card invites you to examine what’s called the feedback bubble, which you can do by seeking feedback … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Strengths

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Strengths card states, “Addressing gaps is vital, but it’s hard to grow solely by studying weaknesses. Positive feedback can illuminate strengths you didn’t know you had.” And the card invites you to practice the double down, which you can do by asking questions like, “What is one thing I did … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Routine

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Routine card states, “Make feedback seeking a habit. Your growth is too important to rely on sporadic feedback or to wait for it to arrive during rare high-stakes check-ins.” And the card invites you to practice the closing ritual, which you can do by asking in your regular interactions, “What’s … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Timing

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Timing card states, “Seeking feedback from someone who is stressed may yield less useful information. They may offer quick surface-level feedback in the moment.” And the card invites you to practice the stress test, which you can do by planning when to seek feedback and prefacing your ask with, “I’d … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Specificity

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Specificity card states, “A broad question like ‘How am I doing?’ may work, but it can also invite mostly compliments. To get more useful feedback, try narrowing your ask.” And the card invites you to practice the narrow ask, which you can do by asking, “What is one specific thing … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Invitation

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Invitation card states, “Many withhold feedback to avoid conflict. Some worry about how it might land. Inviting them to share their perspective can open new paths to growth for everyone.” And the card invites you to use what’s called the permission slip, which you can do by saying, “I’m working … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Observe

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Observe card states, “Feedback isn’t always direct and verbal. Observing rather than only admiring someone who is excellent at something can be an effective way to grow.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the micro-mapping, which you can do by finding someone with a skill you admire, … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Modeling

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Modeling card states, “When you seek feedback, it makes it easier for others to do the same. Openly normalizing the vulnerability needed for growth has a powerful ripple effect.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the signal, which you can do by asking someone whose opinion you … Read more

Using Feedback: Signal

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback signal card states, “Changing your behavior may go unnoticed. If you want particular people to be aware of your efforts to change, ask them directly.” And the card invites you to use what’s called the flag, which you can do by asking the feedback giver something like, “I’m working on … Read more

Giving Feedback: Intent

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Intent card states, “State your positive intent. If the receiver assumes you don’t have their best interest in mind, even great feedback may not land well.” And the card invites you to use what’s called the preface, something like, “I’m sharing this because I believe in what you’re doing, and … Read more

Processing Feedback: Sleep

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Sleep card states: Whether pressure to respond comes from yourself or others, it can make feedback harder to process. A night of sleep may give you new ways to think about it. And the card invites you to practice the twenty-four-hour rule, which you can do by making a rule … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Fallback

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Fallback card states, “You do not need to immediately agree or disagree when you get challenging feedback. You only need to acknowledge receiving it.” And the card invites you to memorize what’s called the feedback fallback phrase. It’s a neutral phrase for when you feel stunned, something like, “I need … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Courage

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback Courage card states, “Our nervous system may try to protect us from difficult feedback. Noticing that and staying present with it can take self-awareness and courage.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the mantra, which you can do by, before sending a specific feedback request, taking a … Read more

Giving Feedback: Permission

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback Permission card states: “Unsolicited feedback can cause defensiveness. In a private setting, ask for permission to share it first. This can create a safer environment.” And the card invites you to use what’s called the opener, which you can do by saying something like, “I have some observations that might … Read more

Using Feedback: Experiment

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback Experiment card states, “You may have spent years building the behavior that feedback is asking you to change. Treat each attempt at change as a form of practice.” And the card invites you to try what’s called the low stakes pilot, which you can do by trying the new behavior … Read more

Giving Feedback: Introduction | The Feedback Deck

Episode Transcript The Giving Feedback tab card states, “Using feedback builds your skills. Giving it well helps others build theirs. It draws on all other feedback skills.” And the suit’s guide is the eagle. They patiently observe from a distance and act with accuracy. Giving great feedback requires that same careful discipline. So let’s start … Read more

Using Feedback: Introduction | The Feedback Deck

Episode Transcript The Using Feedback tab card states, “Processing feedback prepares you to use it, a skill built on turning insight into action through steady, adaptive practice.” And the suit’s guide is the otter. They are resourceful and willing to adapt to solve a problem. Using feedback relies on that same strategic persistence. So here’s … Read more

Processing Feedback: Introduction | The Feedback Deck

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback tab card states, “Receiving feedback leads to processing feedback, a skill that involves slowing down and reflecting before acting. And the suit’s guide is the sloth. They are intentional, so they’re confident when they move. Processing feedback calls for that same deliberate pace.” So let me tell you why this … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Introduction | The Feedback Deck

Episode Transcript The receiving feedback tab card states, “Seeking leads to receiving, a skill that impacts not only how you learn from feedback but also how others give it.” And the suit’s guide is the tarsier. They are attentive to the key signals around them. Receiving feedback well demands that same focused receptivity. So let’s … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Introduction | The Feedback Deck

Video Transcript The Seeking Feedback tab card states: Feedback can be your most important tool for growth. The journey begins with building the skills to seek it. And the suit’s guide is the badger. They dig to find what’s hidden beneath the surface. Seeking feedback takes that same drive to uncover insights. So let’s talk … Read more

Processing Feedback: Immerse

Episode Transcript The Processing Feedback Immerse card states, “Difficult feedback may cause your palms to sweat, your chest to tighten, or your stomach to drop. Those reactions hold information you can learn from.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the dive, which you can do by bringing the feedback to mind, noticing … Read more

Receiving Feedback: Instinct

Episode Transcript The Receiving Feedback Instinct card states: “Difficult feedback can activate a stress response that may limit how you take in information. Self-judgment can then amplify this response.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the reset, which you can do by, when receiving feedback, supporting your sense of internal safety by … Read more

Seeking Feedback: Awareness

Episode Transcript The Seeking Feedback awareness card states, “We can’t improve what we’re not aware of. Seeking feedback can illuminate the gaps between our intent and our impact.” And the card invites you to practice what’s called the impact check, which you can do by finding someone you admire, someone who has actually observed you … Read more

The Skill That Builds All Others

Episode Transcript When I was training as a mixed martial artist, feedback was how I got better a coach or training partners, pointing out how I telegraph my jab, or showing me a better way to set up a triangle choke. When I was writing poetry and essays, it was an editor marking up a … Read more

Our Good Bad Habits

Episode Transcript In 2013, I was living in Thailand and went on my first meditation retreat. It was about an hour outside of Bangkok, and the first few days broke me physically. Here I was in my athletic prime years of martial arts, three professional fights, and I couldn’t sit cross-legged for more than an … Read more

Shoes or Legs

Episode Transcript So here’s a story that is roughly 2000 years old and somehow I think more relevant to modern workplaces than most of what gets published in business journals. A Greek painter named Apelles of Kos had a practice. He would display his paintings publicly while hiding behind them so he could hear honest … Read more

Our History Parts

Episode Transcript In the fall of 2025, I was just getting settled into my office at Penn State Smeal, papers everywhere. Had a freshly whisked matcha on my desk, kind of trying to figure out what my rhythms would be now as a full-time professor after 15 years or so, of full-time corporate work and … Read more

Stacking Small Wins

Episode Transcript So you’ve probably heard the phrase, when it rains, it pours usually to describe how a series of bad things seem to pile on top of each other. But here’s what I’ve noticed. Not only can it go the other way toward the positive, right, but we have a ton of control over … Read more

How Layoffs Changed Us

Episode Transcript I was at Cisco leading one of the best teams I’d ever been part of. Super smart people, real trust, meaningful work because we were tasked with growing Cisco Networking Academy, which is an education platform used by people in something like 195 countries. And then the company announced it was laying off … Read more

Double-Loop Learning

Episode Transcript For nearly 20 years, I’ve had a habit that follows me to the blank page. When I write, I bite my nails. It seems ridiculously minor, but I’ve done it to the point where I’ve had to hide my hands in meetings. I interlace my fingers, keep them below the table. I’ve come … Read more

Steph Curry, Age 15

Episode Transcript There’s an article in the Ringer that I keep coming back to. It’s called, It’s More Than Just a Shot, and it’s about Steph Curry, but not the NBA champion Steph Curry you think you know. It’s about the 15-year-old version of him, five six, a hundred thirty pounds, playing JV basketball at … Read more

The Goo Stage

Episode Transcript Is everything all right? That’s what the chief marketing officer Kurt asked me. An hour earlier, I had sent him a draft I’d ghost written on his behalf. I believe we published it at Fast Company or The Next Web, one of those. Anyways, after asking if I was okay, Kurt followed it … Read more

The 90-Second Rule of Emotions

Episode Transcript The room was packed. There were no empty seats, and it seemed another 100 people were standing in the back to catch a glimpse of the presentation. The event organizers had promoted it to their massive audience as a must see. The stage was empty except for the MC who was adjusting the … Read more

Avoiding Difficult Conversations

Episode Transcript So I was managing Sam, a communications director, who had been at the company 10 years before me. He was friends with all the company’s founders, and on several occasions, the work he shipped to me for review felt off brand and outdated. As a new leader on the team, I felt incredibly … Read more

Healing Trauma & Somatic Experiencing

The Core Reframe “To heal, we need to build Somatic Literacy—the ability to read the unspoken stories our physical bodies are telling.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about Somatic Experiencing. Somatic experiencing is a body-first therapeutic modality designed to … Read more

Psychedelic-Assisted Psychotherapy

The Core Reframe “14 months after a single supervised dose of psilocybin, 64% of volunteers indicated the experience increased well-being or life satisfaction.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy. Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist, and … Read more

Why So Much Hate?

The Core Reframe “Hate-Mapping is a non-judgmental investigation into how hate arises within you.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about the question: “Why is there so much hate in the world?” We often look at the fractures and the carnage … Read more

Intent, Impact, Accountability

The Core Reframe “Remember the order: Impact is the emergency; intent is the debrief. Lead with the bandage, not the shield.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about Intent and Impact. Recently, I shared a concept with my students that … Read more

Face the Wall

The Core Reframe “The goal of Zen and meditation isn’t necessarily to feel good; it’s to see clearly.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about Facing the Wall. In many Zen lineages, the primary practice is to sit in silence, … Read more

The Feedback Second Arrow

The Core Reframe “To be fluent in the first arrow is to recognize the raw language of your nervous system.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about The Second Arrow. The Buddha told a story of two arrows. The first … Read more

What’s Your Joy Yield?

The Core Reframe “Choosing joy is actually harder than choosing grit because it requires us to dismantle the complex responsibilities we’ve built around our egos.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about choosing joy. On October 19, 2025, I sat … Read more

Pam Bondi and the Courage to Turn Toward

Content Warning: This episode and transcript mention child sexual abuse and the Jeffrey Epstein case. Please listen with care. The Core Reframe “Pause to see if the seed—or some small part of what you are pointing at—also lives in you. If you find that it doesn’t, might that be an opportunity to face something new?” … Read more

The Illusion of Separateness

The Core Reframe “We are here to awaken from the illusion of separateness.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about The Illusion of Separateness. In my office at Penn State University, I keep a Ram Dass quote posted by my computer. … Read more

Action Observation as Feedback

The Core Reframe “The Observational On-Ramp is the intentional framework of inhabiting an expert’s performance to build a mental map before your own physical execution.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. We usually think of feedback as a conversation—a verbal exchange between a mentor … Read more

The Cost of Calendar Conformity

The Core Reframe “If you are a leader, are you imposing calendar conformity on your team? What impact is this having? Start a conversation about it.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway, this is 3-Minute Reframe, and today we’re talking about Calendar Conformity. On April 3, 1855, … Read more

Finding Your Purple Cow

The Core Reframe “Where are you suppressing your ‘weird’ to fit into a box? What is one part of your unique experience that you haven’t let shine?” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway, this is 3-Minute Reframe, and we’re talking about purple cows today. So this week, … Read more

What’s Under Your Rug?

The Core Reframe “I want you to imagine your rug. What color is it? What is the texture? What is the shape of the things you may have intentionally or unintentionally swept under it?” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. We all know … Read more

When the Cage Door Shuts

The Core Reframe “If you have been avoiding an opportunity to step into your own arena, what’s holding you back? What would your life look like if you did?” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Twenty years ago, I was a professional mixed … Read more

Jiro Ono and Slow Excellence

The Core Reframe “Slow excellence is about doing the same thing every day but finding a new nuance in it. It is about loving something so much you want to teach it.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. So for decades, Jiro Ono … Read more

No Mud, No Lotus

The Core Reframe “Like the lotus, we don’t always need to enter back into our difficult experiences with ‘open petals.’ We need to be in a psychologically safe environment—internally and externally—to process them.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. In my office at … Read more

The Brachistochrone Curve

The Core Reframe “Where do you want to improve so much that you are willing to get temporarily worse to get there?” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. So in physics, there is a fascinating problem called the Brachistochrone curve. It asks for … Read more

Kurt Lewin’s Model of Change

The Core Reframe “By unfreezing these specific blocks little by little, the ‘Change’ happened naturally. I didn’t have to force confidence; I just had to melt the specific insecurities that were freezing me in place.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi, I’m Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Perhaps nothing brings more joy … Read more

To My Stillborn Daughter

A Quote From This Episode “Each day, especially in the quiet mornings, your light radiates through me. I cherish this light and vow to care for it as I would have cared for your physical being here.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript On October 19, 2025, at about 8 months pregnant, my wife … Read more

Darkness as Bell Tower

The Core Reframe “Darkness need not be a cage that traps you; it can be a bell tower where you learn to ring your own strength.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, dear listeners. My name is Cameron Conaway and this is 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re diving into darkness as bell tower. … Read more

Bring Me The Problems

The Core Reframe “Nothing hurts a healthy feedback culture quite like the phrase ‘don’t bring me problems, bring me solutions.’” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi there, dear listeners. Welcome to 3 Minute Reframe, or 3MR as the cool kids say. The goal here is to share an idea that has reframed my … Read more

The Value of Partial Feelings

The Core Reframe “The wisdom is to recognize when a partial feeling is a useful signal to pause and gather more information, and when it’s an inhibitor to fully showing up.” ⊕ Copy Quote & Link Episode Transcript Hi again, dear listeners. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re diving into the value of partial feelings. … Read more