“Hate-Mapping is a non-judgmental investigation into how hate arises within you.”
Episode Transcript
Hi, my name is Cameron Conaway. Welcome to 3-Minute Reframe. Today we’re talking about the question: “Why is there so much hate in the world?”
We often look at the fractures and the carnage in the world and wonder what is wrong with the world or even what is wrong with “everyone else.” But the world is largely a reflection of the human mind. Most global problems are outward manifestations of the internal problems we neglect to explore, address, or heal.
It’s like the parable of the Two Wolves: the one that wins is the one you feed. Most problems in “the world” are created by us humans, in large part because we’ve taken the easier route: feeding the shadows of our minds—often by avoiding them—rather than feeding our own healing and development.
Too often, we sidestep the friction in our own inner worlds by turning on Netflix or watching eight hours of football. Then, we look at the news and say, “the world’s problems,” as though we are separate from them. As though they aren’t “ours.”
Rather than asking the abstract “why,” I suggest a more practical line of questioning: “What is the shape of my hate?” This is a non-judgmental investigation into how hate arises within you. This may make you feel uncomfortable. You might at first think: Hate? Me? I don’t have a hateful bone in my body. But look closer.
The reframe here is about Hate-Mapping.
Once you map the origins and sensations of your own hate, you can make conscious choices to remove yourself from the mechanisms that feed it.
Start by noticing when the temperature of your thoughts rises. How does it feel in your body? Is it a tightening in the chest or a heat in the face? Who is it directed toward? Is it a group of people, or is it a projection of a part of yourself you haven’t reconciled with?
Often, we are part of systems—economic, religious, or social—that subtly promote hate to feed our tribal instincts. If your community helps you “feed” a hatred for those different from you—whether based on where they were born, how they love, or what they believe—it’s worth asking how your relationship with that system should change.
Hate-Mapping allows you to see the “wires” that connect your internal state to the world’s conflicts. The ripples of your internal change are what eventually change the world.
Catch you next week.
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